Is this thing on?

It's been...checks watch...seven years since I last posted. And if we're being totally honest, I forgot all about this space! I have been itching to write, started googling 'Free Blogging' sites and somehow found my way back. 

Looking back at my last posts, this one could also be called The More Things Change, The More Things Stay the Same...kind of.

Arden was in 4th Grade the last time I wrote. She's now in her final quarter of her junior year of high school. They say don't blink and damn if that's not true. She's still not the most organized human, but lord help us she is smart. We told one of her coaches yesterday that she is planning on law school, and he responded with 'Arden as a lawyer...that's scary.' I wouldn't want to go up against her either...like a dog with a bone. 

Life right now is still chaotic. We've (gratefully) survived the COVID-19 global health pandemic. I wish I'd remembered this little corner of the interwebz in March 2020, and captured the day to day of that surreal time. 2+ years later it's still not over by any means, but at least we've been able to move about the proverbial cabin. We're in the thick of college recruitment. I will probably write about the process, in the hopes it helps another family. We just signed her last club contract. One more year. Weird, the trajectory of life. One clinic...an invitation from a club...7 all-consuming years later. I have thoughts, eventually they'll make their way here. 

I used to write a lot about health and fitness, and the stops and starts. About 6 years ago, I guess, I discovered at-home fitness that really (really) works. And makes consistency easier. I still push play more often that not. Nutrition is still the hardest for me, as it is for oh, millions and millions of humans. If there was a window to my brain, you'd see an endless real of thoughts about losing weight. I know I'm not alone. I am very, very tired of thinking and worrying about it, and still it's a hamster wheel I've yet to get off. Here's to hoping I strike a balance on this soon.

Wild to see the things not documented here...selling our first home and buying a horse farm. A sweet pup named Dobby, whose faced never graced this space, and who was earth-side for too short a time. Shelby, the Mississippi runaway, is still goin' strong (knock wood). The aforementioned pandemic. The arrival of two nieces and a nephew. A once-in-a-life time trip to the World Cup in France - aka the trip that made me say YES to becoming Disney Vacation Club members. Traversing the country for Arden's soccer -- we've been to some seriously random, and seriously cool (Boulder, CO, anyone?) places that are worth talking about here. 

Last time I wrote, I had a kid in elementary school, and now we're a year and change way from having a high school graduate. Which means a whole lot of thought is going into what in the heck we do when she leaves for college. Empty nester life here we come *sob*. 

The country has been to hell and back since November 2016. It's surreal, it's terrifying, and we think quite often about life elsewhere. 

Anyway. I'm back. My goal is to document our life, but also to provide helpful information on other things. Books, recipes, fitness, recruiting, Disney, life as two moms, and soon, life as empty nesters (the wife has been saving cool places to road-trip for years now).

Thanks for reading, if you made it this far. Stay tuned!

Intentions

Because calling them resolutions would be far too predictable...pedestrian even.

Shock of all shocks, we're a household trying to get healthier. I have 11,000 excuses for why things imploded in 2014. Too much stress. Too many excuses. But 2014 ended with some significantly positive life changes and now that we've settled into a new normal we can tackle this next phase of life.

In the vein of - it's only a good idea to Arden if it's her idea - she has taken to helping in meal planning. It's been one week. And two meals. She loved one and snubbed her nose at the other. We're using the Skinnytaste website because her meals are very well balanced, there is a huge variety and the site is so well organized it's easy to search for things.

Meal 1 - Lunch! This was a super easy recipe for A's lunches that she seems to love. D likes them too - so they'll likely make it to the dinner rotation. And I will make myself something else ;).

http://www.skinnytaste.com/2014/10/baked-buffalo-chicken-nuggets.html

Meal 2 - Tonight's dinner was an odd choice for a 9 year old. I haven't the faintest idea what triggered her to want it. Lemon? Ginger? She tasted it, declared it would be better without the lemon, and opted for mozzarella/tomato/avocado salad instead. She humored me by eating some bites of chicken and asparagus. Mostly because she wanted a cookie. 

http://www.skinnytaste.com/2014/03/chicken-and-asparagus-lemon-stir-fry.html

To my surprise - the pickiest of us all when it comes to new things - the spouse - loved this dish. I liked it. I might ease up a bit on the lemon juice next time. I made rice to help absorb some of the lemony/gingery pow. 

Of note, meal planning is a PITA and did not save us one dime this week. Surely I'll get better at it. Because right now ...

Getting Organized

Oh hey there, reader(s). Two months since my last post. I am so outstanding at this blogging thing, no? Really very consistent.

When I last posted we were on the cusp of summer. Endless months of  sun, sand, boating and grandparents awaited. Well, for the child anyway, the moms' days look the same as always, just with a (giant) dash of humidity thrown in and the lack of having to ready a child for school each morning and the rush to pick her up each evening.

Now the end of summer is just over the horizon. The grandparents head home in a couple of weeks. School starts a month from tomorrow. All that stuff that seemed so far away is so close we can almost touch it.

It's bittersweet, isn't it? I'll be sad to close up our little summer escape but at the same time excited to go home full time and resume normalcy. Baking in my old retro kitchen, Saturday morning soccer games, relishing (and cursing) the humdrum of the daily grind. 

This is the time of year that I swear we will get organized at home. When 4 adults, one (messy/chaotic) almost 9 year old and two quirky dogs live in 800 square feet you learn to keep things minimized and organized. It's a lot easier to let the mess spread in 2800 square feet.

My biggest immediate goal is organizing a homework haven for the kid. She is going into 4th grade this year and in the Montessori world ... well, let's just say 4th grade is when sh*t gets real. I had a minor panic attack listening to the teachers talk about the expectations and impending homework. 

Arden is swawesome*....

(photographic proof/Memory Monday - Arden age 3)

...but a lover of school and motivated, organized human she is not. Not to mention she has two moms who work full time and can't get her home before 6PM. (Cue the intense parent guilt.)

I'll be honest, I am conflicted. We have a little library upstairs. It is cozy and perfect. It's the warmest room in the winter and has a door that closes and would be the ideal space for homework. In fact, she self-selected it during the last school year as a place to get work done.

Except when one has a child who, when it comes to schoolwork, benefits from a more hawkish-parenting approach -- let's just say I've found her knee deep Home Repairs 101 as opposed to working on her homework packet -- having her on a separate floor presents a challenge.

There is always the kitchen table but then I need to make sure she has organized storage for pencils and paper, an ever present good pencil sharpener, etc. etc. etc. Not to mention she needs to have regular access to a computer for word processing and typing practice this year. The kitchen solution would be something we have to set up each night because this creature spends her days in the kitchen and will destroy all things in her path.

So there you have it. I have no clue what the best solution is for this year but I only have a few weeks left to figure out a cost effective and well ... generally effective solution. Because maybe if I give her the structure there will be less fighting and tears over homework.

Or maybe the answer to all of it is that we just need one of these, then nothing will seem like that big of a problem.

What are your favorite organization tips for school? 

*Swawesome - Super, Wonderful, Awesome. Word of the summer. Use it. Love it.

The Cherry on Top

Arden and I have kept ourselves busy while D's been away on business this weekend. We closed out the day in Cambridge with the Boston Breakers. Her league had a 'day' with the Breakers - an hour on the field with a player and a couple of coaches and then a night at the game.

It was a spectacular day. Sunny, no humidity, warm. Perfection.

Harvard Stadium is very cool. A really fun place to watch a game, it turns out. There are no seats, just row after row of cement slabs. Needless to say it wasn't a full house at tonight's game - no claustrophobia there.

And with that ... tonight's photo essay:

There was much scrimmaging. She is fierce. I love watching her play.

We met Annette and Rob and the girls for dinner between the scrimmage and the Breakers game. I do love a good meal at Border Cafe. 

And look, all looking at the camera and SMILING! Third time's a charm.

Selfie number 345 of the weekend. Because we're fun people.

At one point in the second half Arden moved down from where we were sitting to sit in the front row. I think it's safe to say we're raising a secure child.

We hit up 'autograph alley' post game. She now has a soccer ball signed by numerous players.

Including her favorite player, Lianne Sanderson. Even Sabrina scooted up to get that autograph. Talk about your fierce athlete, she was so fun to watch.

 We passed this tree on the way back through Cambridge and the child insisted she be photographed under it. She's odd, but I obliged.

All in all it was a fun weekend. We are both wiped out and now need the week off.  

And at some point I'll be able to go to sleep, just as soon as the chicken I'm roasting finishes. Apparently today's activities inspired a little someone to do heavy duty training and focus on protein so this mother of the year is roasting chicken. At 11:30. At night. On Sunday.

Where is my gold platinum star? 

In which we pay $90 to have people throw dyed cornstarch at us....

Under the cloak of winter darkness, a friend (you know who you are)  and I, desperate to dream that spring might one day come, signed up to do Color Me Rad's Boston run. Basically we paid a bunch of money for the pleasure of being tie-dyed. 

Today was the day, and it is a day that will live in infamy.

We joined 5,000 people at a farm about 20 minutes from our house and traversed 3 miles of corn country while slowly turning into Easter eggs.

I have lots of thoughts about the experience. It was fairly disorganized and the two-lane road that leads to the farm was not equipped to welcome a few thousand cars. (read: two miles, one hour.) I think it's safe to say that by the time we parked and made our way to the start line, easily .75 miles from our parking space in the middle of a corn row, we were feeling a scoche frustrated. We headed straight for the starting line where they had disregarded the scheduled waves and were just sending groups of 50 people off every few minutes.

Maybe I should have read the fine print but I expected assaulted by blasts of colored powder every few feet. Yeah, nope. I think there were four, maybe five color stations along the 3 mile course. Halfway through Arden was less than pleased to find herself still relatively stark white. 

Exhibit A:

The course was unexpectedly hard. In my experience 5Ks tend to feature a lot of flat land with one or two hills for good measure. This was hill after hill. I didn't hate it - we do a lot of hills on our jaunts with the dogs - but it wasn't an easy course.

That said, it was gorgeous. Gorgeous day. Gorgeous farm. Even if it did kick my ass.

All complaining aside, I'm glad we crossed this off our bucket list. More photos of the day!

This photo feels very Maria Von Trapp, The Hills are Alive to me, no?

Arden was SUPER excited that I kept whipping out the camera to capture this experience. See?

Delighted to finally be out of the car and ready to get the show on the road:

Seriously. The fierceness that is our kid. Seriously.

Mortifying mother forced selfie FTW!

PINK (of note, asthmatics, wear a mask!)

PURPLE - this was right before the finish line.

Finisher

                                  

They had bags of 'color bombs' at the end - we each got one and she finished the job herself.

 In the end, we had fun. I wouldn't do a 5K like this again -- it's just too gimmicky -- but now we can say we've done it, right? Right.

Nineteen

Today is our official 10th anniversary. Our raucous celebration includes Dora being at a board meeting and me roasting a chicken and working on Annette's wedding plans. We know how to party. But hey, it's just another day in this life of ours.

When we got married 10 years ago we had no idea what awaited this country in terms of same-sex marriages. Would it last in Massachusetts? Would any other state adopt it? And then Connecticut did. And Iowa did. Then Vermont, New Hampshire and Washington DC. And on and on and on... 

This has been a big week for marriage equality with Oregon and state #19, Pennsylvania! 

With the addition of Pennsylvania ...

10 years. 19 states (plus Washington DC!).

Equality.

Oh and perhaps most important? We now share our anniversary with these fine fellows: 

Congratulations, Mitch and Cam! Welcome to the club.

The Gay Agenda, Take 753

Another big day on the Gay Agenda today. 

There was a lot of laundry, grocery shopping and meal prepping. Why is it already Sunday night?

(You know you've done it. Don't lie to me.)

Just another day of prepping to take over the world, one sock at a time.